Me: a good rule for this family is: “if you can do it yourself, go ahead. Don’t wait for mom or dad to do it for you.
Abbey: that’s sort of like what Ghandi: “we must change we want to see. Don’t wait for someone to make a change. You should do it because no one else knows what you want”
Evie: like we learned in Sunday school: even if you didn’t create the problem, you can still be part of the solution
(To myself: “file this under: words of theirs I can remind them of, later on” 😀)
Seattle Public Schools starts kindergartners a few days later than the other grades. Which means we are obliged
Along with parents across the country, the existential dread of time’s passing occurs for me as I realize my baby Abigail is now over half way done with elementary school.
at Hawthorne Elementary, lots of exciting bustling energy
girls had to snuggle because they weren’t used to waking up so early!
She’s happy, and proud- you can see it on her face!
we got together with her friends for prayer right before we walked along to school
-You have never cared about me
-I’m starting to think I don’t want to be with them.
-my parents just make me feel miserable
Another Kniffin family ritual: this year marked the 10th Selin Weekend in Leavenworth (although we haven’t documented as much as we should have; it appears the last time we wrote a post about it was in 2012).
Each summer, we come to Mountain Springs Lodge in Plain, WA (outside Leavenworth) to be with Cynthia’s extended family, on her Mom’s side. ~90 people attend. o mark how much of a tradition it’s become, here’s me & Cyn, attending our first weekend… in 2007, 11 years ago, before we were married…
As you might be able to imagine, 10 years of getting together creates quite a tradition. It feels as though each time-section of the weekend has something to expect: when meals are, when singing is, breaking up into small groups to share how life is and pray for each other, the ‘Selin Family Olympics’, all-group games,… you get the idea. There’s even expectations of when certain Uncles/Aunts are going to say ___________, or when another person is going to do something crazy (people are predictable… are they not? :)).
So, I suppose the lesson of it all is about ritual: the familiar patterns of activity and association that tell you, ‘you belong’… such familiarity tells you that the world is a predictable place that has meaning, and that you have carved out a place within it.
That’s a great gift to give your kids: stability and love from a community that loves them. But, (and maybe this is obvious), it’s also a great gift to give yourself, as an adult… for the same reasons!
explaining the rules for the relay in the “Selin Family Olympics”, which always occurs on Saturday after lunch
a typical meal- we really fill up the main lodge
this year, Cyn’s uncle John is getting married to Heather (in the pink). Abbey & Evie were asked to be flower girls, and are here helping Heather make the bouquets
Great Grandma Barbara & her sister deciding on which team in the Olympics made the best team banner
celebrating Abbey’s birthday as a family
Uncle Mike did this really cool thing where he made a version of the family feud as a spreadsheet on Google Sheets
Family Worship Service, with Uncle Matt giving a testimony
I surprised dad and mom with a game farm made up of toys today.