Evie Learns to bike

I’m very proud to introduce the newest bicyclist in the family.  This was a while in the making. Despite a lot of effort on our part, it never “took” with her.  I think the reason for it not taking has to do with her being awfully self-conscious.  Learning to bike has a lot to do with confidence; it’s not as if just balancing and pedalling is the most difficult obstacle, in and of itself. It’s about having the confidence to try something new.

We are also thankful for Pedalheads for giving her a fun space to learn something new.  

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Evies theological questions

Why did god send Jesus to hell? (After hearing apostles creed)

Has God always existed? What was before God created the world?

What does “hallowed” mean?

Will Gods kingdom “come on earth, as in heaven” before I die?

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Summer Days: Crabapple Lake, Uncle Mike’s lake property

Today was a quintessentially summer day. Seattle is set for a mini heat-wave of a week in the 80s-90s (at least by our standards. I know that many readers of this blog have experienced head much hotter than this, in other areas), so we all decided to head to the Lake! An entire afternoon/evening was spent splashing in the water, with plenty of water-toys to keep our attention.


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After the big road trip we stay at Oma and Opa’s for few days

Entry by Oma Kniffin

What a joy it was to have Tim, Cynthia and the girls stay with us a few days. The girls went to a drama camp for 4 days, and on Thursday we got to see them perform. They sang and acted so well!

One night after playing with Opa’s wooden African animals, Abigail played Scrabble with her Dad and Opa, and did Very well!

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Back Home

Our final trip-Ometer registered just short of 2700 miles

Well, we are home. Whew! It’s nice to be home, and settled. But there’s also an amazing feeling of accomplishment and adventure.

Below is our final map of every basic stop we had. More tomorrow on some concluding thoughts

The way down hugged the coast until Mendocino, California

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Crater Lake

We met with Cousin Brian. Niewenhuis and his wife, Melissa (great to see you, Nieuhwenhuis family!!)

We headed from there to Crater Lake, which was jaw dropping. We left yesterday morning.





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Resistance from the kiddos

Sometimes, the girls loved the hiking. Other times, we got a lot of push-back

I said at the outset of this trip that i thought this was the first year our girls could really get something out of this trip.  That’s proven to be true, in more ways than one.  On the positive side, I do think that the girls have really enjoyed this trip, and have made connections with the family, God, and the natural world that will last.  that’s great.
But it’s also true that this is the first year this would have worked.  In other words, there has been resistance to what we are doing, and I think it stretches our girls’ capacities to do this type of travel and physical exertion.    
cyn and I reading, during this trip, two books that really help deal with this: Parenting from the Inside Out and The Whole Brain Child (both are by Daniel Siegel at UCLA).  Among other things, what it says is that it’s good for children to run up against resistance because it pushes their boundaries of what they think is possible.  Loving adults should contextualize such experiences, as positive, growing experiences.  They should be told within the context of a story, which is the best way our brains make sense of experiences.  A story can acknowledge difficult things, but describe them as growing experiences that tested strength and capacity of the individual.

Of course, none of this is new to anyone who reads the Bible regularly.  Some of the more popular verses that deal with the virtue of struggle read like this: 

Romans 5:3–5;  Not only that, but we frejoice in our sufferings, knowing that sufferinggproduces endurance, 4 and endurance produces character, and character produceshope, 5 and hhope does not put us to shame, because God’s love ihas been poured intoour hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.

James 1:2–4, Testing of Your Faith: eCount it all joy, my brothers,1 when you meet trials fof various kinds, 3 for youknow that gthe testing of your faith hproduces steadfastness. 4 And let steadfastnesshave its full effect, that you may be iperfect and complete, lacking in nothing.
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If told right, all the experiences of difficulty, discipline, stress and struggle can become ways for your child to grow in inner capacity to handle difficult situaitons.
And that makes us want to do have more experiences with our kids where they encounter resistance. Rather, we want to regularly plan to have more of these “resistance-building” activities.

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